A mentor once told me whenever I have a problem, the first thing to do is step to the mirror and ask, “Could it be me? Am I the source of the problem? am I doing something wrong here? Is my behavior offensive? my attitude skewed? Perhaps I’m not perceiving things correctly?”
First look to yourself, for that is the end over which you have the most control – …and that’s debatable, I know, because I can barely control myself– but if I can barely control myself, how in the heck am I going to control others?
So next time you have a problem, go to the mirror. Worst case scenario is you’ll leave looking better than when you showed up.